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Wednesday, October 11, 2006

In need of balls

I'm guessing there's something seriously wrong when I've opted to stay home from work and play pacman all day instead for the second time this week. No shit Sherlock...

I WANT TO QUIT!
All I want is someone to tell me 'come on, you can quit, don't worry, even if you haven't found another job yet, it's not the end of the world'. I am so freaked out about leaving my job and not having a back up, but I have really reached the limit of my patience.

I've been sleeping restless nights and waking up with that nauseous feeling in my gut, like the one I used to get going to primary school, knowing that I had Arabic class that day with the evil witch. I can no longer stand the thought of going into the office.

When did work become the primary focus of our lives? Why are we so freaked out about not having a job? I am educated, I have some experience, why wouldn't I find another job? I have the fortunate privilege of living with the family, so I am not really going to end up broke and on the street right away.

I know I haven't posted in ages and now I come back with a whiny post. But this is the reality of my life these days. Between doing the bare minimum at work, smoking sheeshas all night, eating iftar every other day and trying to avoid and outsmart Inkey, Blinkey, Pinkey and Clyde...I can only think of how much I want to leave my job and how miserable I am working with a bunch of unprofessional and unappreciative people.

I need to grow some balls (guys, how do you do it?) and just make a decision.

14 Comments:

At 12:55 PM, Blogger KJ said...

sorry a bit late in wishing you Ramadan Kareem..
i was on leave...

:)

KJ

 
At 12:03 AM, Anonymous Caro said...

Why do you hate your job?
Is it you, or is it them?
Will you run in this problem everywhere you work?

If you are hurt mentally or physically - get out, fast! If not, try and find something before you ditch them.

If its you, try and figure out how to "fix it", with or without professional help.

In either case, why do you need balls if you're intelligent and educated? Just sit down - devise a strategy to change the situation and then do it! And if you weren't scared to do that, you'd be abnormal. Maybe you have people to help you do this.

Finding a new job is difficult, leaving one is difficult. But sometime, you just have to do it.

Shake your gloom off - stay home to hone your resume and send it off rather than play pacman! Contact your network: clients, friends, family. If people don't know you're looking to change, how are they expected to tell you about interesting opportunities?

Be positive, stop complaining. MIND OVER MATTER! If you're depressed, seek out help.

I send you courage, and confidence, and a hug too.

Good luck

 
At 10:08 AM, Blogger Jin said...

Caro couldn't have said it better!! If the situation at work is SO bad, then speak up - throw a wobble, have a 'stress-on' or say whatever is on your mind through clenched teeth if need be. If you don't speak up, then no one will be any the wiser will they?

 
At 3:33 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

With work playing such a enormous part of our lives, it's very important to have a job which makes you happy and content, makes you feel like you've accomplished something good at the end of a very long day.

Getting up to go to a job that you have ended up having no interest in is hell. I know, i've been there many a time.

There seem to be plenty of jobs in Dubai and like you say, you're in a good situation living with your family.

So what if you don't have a job for a couple of months. (As long as you don't take the 'you know what' out of your family of course). Time out is often what we need to give us that new lease of career life.

So I say... hand in your notice asap and enjoy the relief for a while!

Good luck and let us know how you get on.

 
At 3:45 PM, Blogger sky said...

Thanks for the advice!

Contrary to what I may have portrayed, I have spoken up MANY times and attempted to find a solution to the problems.

I'd say the problem is 70% the company's fault and 30% mine. I can be very difficult when I'm unhappy with something, but I've worked to change my attitude...except their attitude hasn't changed in the least bit, so it's been a vicious cycle.

I have also already gotten my 'network' going, so I'm not really just sitting home playing pacman...that's just what I do when I'm bored. And right now, my brain just needs a break.

I'm going to discuss this with the family this weekend and will hopefully come to a final decision.

Will keep whoever cares posted :)

 
At 9:13 PM, Anonymous chazoo said...

Sky - i'm glad to be reading a new post!

Maybe I have a few things to add to all th good stuff above...

1. Unless you are very specific about what kind of job you want to do, don't limit your search to the usual spots. Sometimes amazing opportunities open up in places you would never have thought of looking into. Words are everywhere, in every domain and industry...

2. Anonymous is right BUT i have yet to meet a person who truely 100% LOVES what they're doing. I mean, I like what I do 70% of the time, the rest is stuff I have to do that comes with the job. Hopefully you'll find a great job, that makes the 30% boring part worth while (Or better - that has less than 30% boringness to it!!!)

3. Always remember that YOU also get to choose the job/ workplace/ employer and that the "interview" process serves you as well as the employer. Ask questions, ask to speak to people in the team you'd be joining, ask to see the offices. When you search for a job, you're never begging for one but exchanging your knowledge and experience for compensation. So always keep you head high and know your worth: intelligence, education, portfolio, whatever.

Go Sky go!
Best of luck to you - do keep us posted!

 
At 8:10 AM, Blogger moryarti said...

Realistically, no one is 100% happy in their jobs… Whoever tells you otherwise is a complete liar.

But sometimes there is a certain limit, a threshold you might say, to the things you can overlook or bypass at work. You are the only one knows when enough is enough.

Once that happens, (when enough IS enough), just walk out of that door. No questions asked

 
At 3:32 PM, Blogger Desert Lady said...

I definately agree with Anonymous and Moryati.

So there's just one question... HAVE YOU DONE IT YET!!

Good luck
DL
http://dubaidesertlady.blogspot.com

 
At 1:07 AM, Blogger Abha said...

Just quit. I remember feeling similar. I quit and moved to Spain, and it has been the most nourishing 6 months of my life.

Read this (link, incase you haven't already). It may help put things into perspective.

http://news-service.stanford.edu/news/2005/june15/jobs-061505.html

 
At 10:38 AM, Blogger sky said...

Thanks chazoo, good to hear from you and good to know you still read me!

Moryarti, you asked for a post...you got a post! Bet you wish you would have kept ur mouth shut :p

DesertLady, haven't done it yet. After discussion with the family yesterday, I was told to really try and hold out until the end of the year, look for a job meanwhile. So basically I would quit in November, give a month's notice and be done by the time December rolls in.

I'm gonna try and do that, although there are no guarantees as to how long I can take it.

Abha...Spain is where I want to be. Am planning on going there next year...maybe sooner...who knows?

Would love to get in touch with you once you are back to hear all about it!

 
At 2:01 AM, Blogger ArabLady said...

Stick to it until u find a better alternative otherwise u will be fucked up ...believe me sitting at home doing nothing will drive u crazyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

Good Luck !

 
At 3:51 AM, Anonymous older and wiser said...

Sky, You sound like you already have made a decision.You don't need to grow balls! You just need to listen to your own advice.

Of course doing it in a way that best protects you and your interests is the key. You don't want to shoot yourself in the foot, right? Get a plan and a time frame.Start putting feelers out, and channel your energies into making the change. You'll find that just shifting your focus to the future will release some of your current frustration. People around you will start to react differently, because they'll sense something different about you. Opportunities will present themselves and you'll be in a better frame of mind to notice them and grasp them. In no time at all, you'll be looking back from a happier place, reassessing and probably seeing your current situation in a different, softer light. You sound like a woman with an interesting future. Best wishes.

 
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